Saturday, December 31, 2011
venting
Just need to vent! My dw is saying that she chooses to stay away from me because of my hormones and the surges I am having... It upsets me because this is something we both wanted to be pregnant and now that I am it seems as if she is distant from me. She is constantly on her phone playing a game and it is like she avoids me.. When I try and talk to her about it she says we aren't doing this because your right and I am always wrong. I just don't understand.. I didn't know this pregnancy would cause this much friction between us. Is she scared, having second thoughts? It scares me. Is she going to end up leaving because we are here and she realizes this isn't what she wanted? It causes so many fears and questions that are left unanswered because she doesn't want to talk to me about it. She is so standoffish and abrasive and that is not my usual wife. It is suppose to be a good and happy time and the past week has been alot of tension between us. We attempted to make love and she couldn't because she is afraid to cause bleeding or hurt the baby but is constantly compalining about it.. I am just not in the mood. I am emotional and I can't help it, but I have really tried to not be a bitch. She doesn't understand where I am coming from she is the one who refused to carry our children and now she is mad at me because of the hormones it has caused.... I just don't know what to do so I told her I nust wouldn't talk to her the rest of the 9 months.. This isn't the way it is supposed to be. What a way to start the new year.......
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Aw sounds like you're having a rough time of it :( It will pass... I must admit that my wife has been almost frightening over the past week or so, as you will see from my latest entry, which has caused me to step back a bit - but we have awesome communication so we have talked about it and it's all good... I'm sure your wife is just having her own time of adjustment, or feeling left out (which is totally normal, i can tell you from the 'other mum' perspective) and you will come through it fine :) Perhaps make plans to go out for a nice meal (if you're feeling up to it) and just have a nice time together. It's easy to forget about you as a couple when you have spent all this time trying to make a baby.
ReplyDeleteTara and I also have great communication, apparently she is just emotional and having sympathy emotions. We discussed it and are ok now.. She made it clear she does not regret the baby or the baby with me. SO that made me feel 100% better!! I try not to be horrid with my emotions but it is hard with my mood swings, I find myself apoligizing alot... Thank you:)
ReplyDeleteSo glad you two discussed it :D I think that although it's such a special time, it's also one of the most trying for a couple - which I am discovering ;) hehe... Good luck to us all, eh? :)
ReplyDeleteyes, def we need all the luck we can get.. lol
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